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Forgiveness is a choice. When the journey begins, it’s worth it and you are worth the work. This was the experience that today’s guest, Stephanie McNeal, talks about overcoming in this episode.
Stephanie McNeal is a Speaker, author, forgiveness coach, and now thriving after experiencing infidelity in marriage. She is also the podcast host of Freed2Love, which talks about forgiving yourself from past mistakes, unhealed heartbreak, accepting the truth, and freeing yourself to move forward with your life.
Let’s dive right into this episode and learn from Stephanie how to heal yourself and encounter the power of forgiveness.
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EPISODE SHOW NOTES
[00:01 – 05:58] Opening Segment
I introduce and welcome Stephanie McNeal
Who is Stephanie?
Speaker, author, forgiveness coach
Thriving after experiencing infidelity in marriage and being newly single
Helping people to bounce back from any types of abuse
Forgiveness is necessary for people to grow
Stephanie shares how she gained the strength to turn trauma into courage
Motivated by her late fathers’ heritage in influencing a lot of people
Join a spiritual development program called Identity and Destiny
Got called to be a minister of reconciliation for the masses
[05:59 – 11:10] Finding the Greater Purpose
Stephanie talks about her new calling and purpose in life
Being called to help people find forgiveness
Success is tied to the ability or inability to forgive
Stephanie talks about her response to the calling
Desire not to pass the same bitterness to her children
Awareness of your greater purpose
Breaking through the victim mentality
I talk about the challenge of breaking through in my experience
Fear is the biggest factor and obstacle to break through your situation
Knowing that it is not about you, it is about what you’re supposed to be accomplishing
The feeling of being unqualified
Stephanie talks about being free
Overcome the negative thought, feeling, and action towards your trauma
Don’t try to avoid or bury it
[11:11 – 27:49] Encounter the Power of Forgiveness
I talk about my experience with the power forgiveness
How it manifested and changed the dynamic of my relationship with my father
Forgiveness is the most healing and beautiful thing that took place
How can we learn to start to forgive truly?
Trying to offer the wrongdoer compassion, benevolence, and love
We as forgivers realize that the offender does not necessarily have a right to such gifts, but we give it as an act of mercy
In forgiveness, we acknowledge that the effect is unfair and will always be
We have the right to be angry, but not retaliate, nor revenge
Having the view that people do not have the right to hurt you
Forgiveness is a choice and a journey
How to experience forgiveness while still be compassionate
Acknowledge the hurt and pain
Takes humility and vulnerability
Be authentic and transparent
I talk about the value of giving yourself credit on the journey of forgiveness
Acknowledge the transformation within yourself
Trust yourself more
Stephanie talks about the biggest hang-ups on people’s journey of forgiveness
You are not a bad person if you have been hurt
But you are hurting yourself if you let unforgiveness stay on your mind
When we start to forgive, we will begin to accept yourself for who we are
I talk about the shift that happens after forgiveness occurs
Attract beautiful people and relationships
Dynamic shift externally
[27:50 – 32:59] Reclaiming Your Voice
Have you ever felt like your voice is being silenced?
Being in that emotionally abusive relationship
The feeling of being squashed down
Stephanie shares her journey after breaking through
The insecurity that flashes
Giving yourself permission to be you
Transparency and vulnerability will attract people to you
Learning how to be yourself
How to reclaim your voice and your power?
Allowed yourself to heal
Give yourself some time and space
Reconnecting with yourself
What are the things that you love the most about yourself and where you are on your journey?
Her relationship with God
Realizing that your pain is propelling you for something
[33:00 – 37:52] Closing Segment
How to connect with Stephanie
Links Below
talk2stephanie.com
Stephanie talks about the main discovery of her journey
The pathway to her healing
It took process, accountability, and community
Stephanie talks about the ‘together she rises’ community that she builds
Patterned after the Lioness tribe
Creating a safe place for people to heal
Stephanie talks about Freed2love Podcast
Talks about taboo things
Final words from Stephanie
Closing
Tweetable Quotes:
“My success was tied to my ability or inability to forgive my ex-husband .” – Stephanie McNeal
“If you just try to bury it, it will still be alive and manifesting somewhere in your life making you not be able to get to your full potential.” – Stephanie McNeal
“When unjustly hurt by another, we forgive when we overcome the resentment toward the offender, not by denying our right to the resentment, but instead by trying to offer the wrongdoer compassion, benevolence, and love; as we give these, we as forgivers realize that the offender does not necessarily have a right to such gifts, but we give it as an act of mercy.” – Stephanie McNeal
“Forgiveness is a choice, and then the journey begins. It is worth it, and you are worth the work.” – Stephanie McNeal.
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ABOUT STEPHANIE MCNEAL
When a woman’s partner is unfaithful, it is not uncommon for their entire life to unravel. This unraveling is what was used not only as the catalyst for Stephanie’s brokenness, but the passion behind her healing and restoration. Stephanie’s passion and pleasure is to see women bounce back from whatever was the catalyst for their brokenness or stressful experience, forgive everyone who hurt them and live out their God given purpose. She helps people go from heartbreak to happy so that ultimately they grow and have the power and passion to be freed to love.
Her education and training includes an MBA in Marketing; Certification in P.R.E.P. – a scientifically-based, empirically-tested method of teaching relationship education sponsored by the National Institutes of Health; a licensed facilitator of Identity and Destiny which provides a step-by-step guide to help you find, know and live your God given purpose. She also has certifications to teach entrepreneurship to adults and children.
Newly single, she is the mother of four and loves reading, writing, learning and the adventure of travel.
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